Thinking of taking your first vacation away with your boyfriend (or girlfriend!)? While you?re probably excited and thinking of all that hot vacation sex you?re going to have, take a minute to prepare yourself for the fact that it could be a huge test in your relationship. I?m serious!
Yes, I?m still in vacation mode. I went to Aruba with my parents, sister, cousin and J over New Year?s and had a blast ringing in 2013 with the people I love. All I can think about this week back at work is being back there on the beach and how much fun I had with J and my family, which normally could have been a stressful situation (family + close quarters = drama).
It?s also got me thinking back to a not so great vacation I went on back in college with my ex. We spent a week at Disney World and I can still remember this huge fight we had during one of those Main Street parades at Magic Kingdom. I should have realized that if we couldn?t make it work at ?the happiest place on earth? we probably couldn?t make it work, period. Think about it: a vacation is when you should feel most at ease and let loose. If you?re fighting or not enjoying your time with your partner while away from the stresses of everyday life, there might be a bigger issue in your relationship worth exploring. I wish I had taken a closer look at the trip with my ex sooner and realized we weren?t meant to be so that the relationship wouldn?t have dragggged out another year (with many fights after and a pretty intense end after he was finally the one to pull the plug).
Fast-forward to 2010 and I?m back in Disney with J at a couple of the parks before setting sail on a cruise from Florida. This time, this guy, everything was right. It even rained for two full days while we were there. We were forced to wear those weird plastic poncho things while walking around and you know what? It didn?t matter. We had a blast feeling like kids again. It was exciting just to be away together, regardless of what we were doing.
Funny how going to the same place and doing the same things with two people can feel so drastically different, right? Going away with your significant other can be a serious test for your relationship. If you?re not already living together, it?s a preview of what cohabiting could be like. And if you are already together all the time, it?s magnified because you?re together even more while on a trip; there are only so many places to go when you?re at a tropical resort and sharing a room!
Tell me: has a vacation ever tested your relationship? Have you ever gone away with a boyfriend only to realize you weren?t meant to be? Or did you go away and realize you should move in together? Tell me your good, bad, and crazy vacation stories! J and I have managed to survive two solo trips, multiple getaways with friends, and 3+ family vacations so I feel like we?ve passed the test. Wedding planning? Now that?s a test all on it?s own?
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Source: http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2013/01/is-your-relationship-meant-to.html
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